how emotionally mature are they?
from chpt 2
realistic & reliable.
when things go wrong, they…
a) find a way. make it work.
b) get frustrated. but adapt.
c) stress. overthink. spiral.
d) shut down. blame others. disappear.
when plans change…
a) they roll with it. life happens.
b) they’re a little annoyed. but move on.
c) they guilt-trip. make you feel bad.
d) they take it personally. shut you out.
when they’re upset…
a) they talk about it. ask for what they need.
b) they need a minute. but they come back.
c) they sulk. make you guess what’s wrong.
d) they explode. make it everyone’s problem.
their energy is…
a) steady. you know what to expect.
b) mostly stable. some ups and downs.
c) unpredictable. mood swings.
d) draining. exhausting.
respectful & reciprocal.
when you open up, they…
a) listen. make space for you.
b) give advice. maybe too quickly.
c) change the subject.
d) make it about them.
when they’re wrong…
a) they own it. no problem.
b) they get defensive. but come around.
c) they justify. twist things.
d) they never admit it. ever.
how do they handle conflict?
a) direct. calm. willing to work through it.
b) a little uncomfortable. but they try.
c) passive-aggressive. cold.
d) avoidant. or explosive. no in-between.
when you need them…
a) they show up. every time.
b) mostly. but only if it’s convenient.
c) they say they will. then don’t.
d) they disappear.
responsive.
do they laugh easily?
a) all the time. even at themselves.
b) sometimes. depends on the mood.
c) rarely.
d) never.
do they make you feel safe?
a) yes. being around them feels good.
b) mostly. but they have their moments.
c) not really.
d) no.
do they change when they need to?
a) yes. they reflect. grow. evolve.
b) sometimes. but only if pushed.
c) they say they will. but don’t.
d) no. they stay the same. always.
mostly a’s:
emotionally solid. reliable. easy to be around. handles life well. someone you can count on.
mostly b’s:
mostly mature. but some rough edges. can be rigid. can be reactive. but they try.
mostly c’s:
a little stuck. caught in old patterns. defensive. unaware. avoids tough conversations. makes life harder than it needs to be.
mostly d’s:
hard to be around. heavy energy. unpredictable. exhausting. they take. rarely give. walking on eggshells is normal.
final thought:
who did you think of?
why?